What on Earth is he wearing — or not wearing — if he considers a loose dress to be contrastingly formal?

 What on Earth is he wearing — or not wearing — if he considers a loose dress to be contrastingly formal?

Never mind. Perhaps you can tell (or remind) him about your underwear sacrifice. No, skip that, too. The heat seems to have gotten to Miss Manners’ sense of decorum.

The argument-closer is to say that you will wear what you choose and he may wear what he chooses — if that does not cause more serious problems. Possibly with the law.

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